Women More Accepting of Porn?

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When I read this article last week, I knew I had to write about it. The story is about a study done at BYU (the college owned by the Mormon church) in which about half of the college women they surveyed view pornography as “an acceptable way to express one’s sexuality”. It also says that while they might be accepting of the concept of porn, only 3% of women admit to looking at it at least once a week, compared to 90% of men.

Some simple math immediately reveals that there are probably a lot of men who like porn in relationships with women who don’t. Even more interestingly however, there are probably a lot of couples who enjoy porn together (or apart) without hurting their relationships. In fact, I’d be willing to bet that when enjoyed together, porn can enhance intimacy.

So I’m curious, coupled VideoBox members – do you use your account with your significant other? If so, do you have any advice for other members who may not have taken the plunge with their partners yet?

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23 Responses to “Women More Accepting of Porn?”

  1. steadykeepgamin' Says:

    My girl and I watch porn together but not online. The reason for this is practical, there is no computer in the bedroom and the office is cramped.

  2. Sean Says:

    Out of the three serious relationships I’ve been in, in two of them we watched porn with each other. The other one was adamantly against it.

    I agree that porn can enhance intimacy just because it opens the door to many options. EG You like anal sex and you are uncomfortable bringing that subject up, porn saves you that potential awkwardness and does that for you.

  3. alison Says:

    steadykeepgamin’ – Do you ever burn DVDs of the stuff you get from VideoBox? I think it’s cool because you can make a “mix” DVD with your favorite scenes on it if you have a DVD burner.

    Sean – I totally agree that porn can be a nice segue into less comfortable topics. If you don’t mind me asking, how did you broach the subject in your relationships? I think a lot of people wish they could and have no idea how to even start.

  4. Sam Says:

    I check out VideoBox every day, and I love the site. After being careful not to press my girlfriend into watching porn (she had never even watched a scene before), but nonetheless being honest with her about my enjoyment of it, she eventually became interested enough to try watching. We looked at a couple of scenes with girls who I believe are exceptional, including my favorite, Monica Sweetheart. My girlfriend got very turned on watching Monica take it in her pretty ass with a smile on her face and she was soon doing the same on my couch. The sex was so great that I was constantly reaching over to wake my laptop from sleep mode so that we could use Monica’s performance as inspiration for our lovemaking. My recommendation to guys who are trying to turn their girl onto porn is watch scenes with Eastern European stars. They tend to be much more comfortable in their bodies, and there is less of a porn taboo in Europe. The culture isn’t so puritanical. Plus, they’re the hottest women, to boot! When your girl sees how natural they are and how they are really enjoying the work and not necessarily “acting,” I believe she will be much more likely to appreciate what we all know can be one of the most beautiful forms of art – porn. And fellas, just be grown men about it, that’s the most important part. Treat porn with maturity and your girl will be much more likely to get turned on with you instead of seeing you as a sick fuck.

  5. sundubys Says:

    Lol! great subject Alison! I actually dont watch porn with girls, I’ve only tried it with one girl who I was with but, she never really got into it so I just kind of left the porn watching up to my self. To tell you the truth I watch porn to perfect my techniques or to pick up new ones, or try something new. I try not to watch to much though cause it kills your sex when it really does happen. Overall I guess most guys would love to find their sex craved nympho girl friend who loves sports, sex,and porn but still be a girly girl at the same time. Personally I think that porn has made me the tiger I am in bed, it has allowed me to adapt my sex game, and I’m not going to lie I love it when I have sex with a girl and she says “that was the best ever, I never had sex like that before”!, and in the back of my head I’m saying “thanks Videobox”, it almost sounds like a comercial that VB would do, but honestly folks we watch porn to mimic what we see, and try to perfect our sex game so it’s that much better…

    I want to ask a quick question, who would you rather have sex with?

    A) a girl who is sexually active who has been with 5-8 guys, but does not watch porn.

    B) a girl who is sexually active who has been with 5-8 guys, and does watch porn.

    C) a girl who’s a virgin, and makes a bitter beer face when you say the word porn.

    D) a girl who’s a virgin, and loves to watch porn?

  6. missbadceed Says:

    i haven’t shared my videobox membership with any dude, ever. i actually think either they’ll be too into watching porn while having sex “Me man. Me watch boobies on tv and touch some at same time.” or i think a guy would be offended or turned off at the fact that i’m subscribed to a porn site. but being shy and bisexual- porn, lesbian porn is great to stumble upon, surfing the internet with a friend, a great way to bring the conversation around to “well, haven’t you ever tried that? …want to?”

  7. missbadceed Says:

    oh, and D) a girl who’s a virgin, and loves to watch porn… i’m pretty sure a lot of girls watch porn, but would prefer to act like they don’t. it’s just easier than risking a relationship because a guy thinks you’re all about sex or that you’re a skank, done this before, i would know.

  8. Chance Says:

    A healthy relationship is built on lies and half truths. She pretends not to know what I’m doing upstairs, and I pretend she doesn’t know. Everybody stays happy.

    Seriously though, I rarely watch porn with my wife. As the first guy said, it isn’t practical in the computer room with two people, and while she’s not offended by porn per se, she is annoyed by anything that takes attention away from her.

  9. MasonSquelch Says:

    Chance, I’d like to second your statement about lies and truths (or little secrets and known things). Porn is my secret hobby, for me it’s perfect escapism and doesn’t have to match reality. It’s somewhere between erotic phantasy and subversion, it’s exiting and gives relaxation as well. But since it’s a very personal thing (I wouldn’t even watch a porn flick with a buddy), it’s my very own.

  10. dirtybirdy Says:

    I would suggest easing your girlfriend into a scene of fish hook face fucking and gagging. See Amy Reid on that first Combat Zone video.

  11. Todd Says:

    I share my Videobox videos with my gal on our TV in the livingroom – I burn the videos I know she will enjoy to a CD-ROM and we play them back on my DVD player (I have to convert them to AVI files first). Since we make our own home movies, she loves to watch these videos for two reasons: 1) she loves to critique porno-guys and their horrible techniques, and 2) she makes note of something she’d like to try in the bedroom ourselves! Just last week, for example, she finally watched the Paris Hilton “One Night in Paris” video, which she hated so much she exclaimed “I better not give head as bad as Paris does!” and then proceeded to give me the best blow-job of my life! Needless to say, I plan to make our porn-watching sessions a much more regular event! And, of course, we’ll have to watch Paris go at it a few more times, too!

  12. Hotknicks1 Says:

    I love checking this sight out with my girl! I kept it secrect at first but then one day I was like fuck it… I showed her what I subscribe to… she pick a flick and we fucked… and had fun… i suggest that everyone do it!

  13. Matt Says:

    I have to say, sometimes, my wife after a few drinks longs for me to watch some porn with her! I have a number of PC’s hooked into my tv’s through out the house where we enjoy vidoe box flix! Thanks you for enhancing my wife into kinky-ier things!

    -E. Vedder

  14. hombre1 Says:

    To the question above: My girl is answer “D”. I got lucky as hell to find this woman. She loves sex. Loves watching sex. She’ll go into our local video store with me and pick out the ones she wants to see. She actually finds the degredation exciting. I’ve downloaded a couple of scenes I thought would be good for us and she loved them. She actually encourages me to surf for porn!!! God I love her!

  15. jake Says:

    For those who said, there’s no computer in the bedroom – a laptop works great especially on one of those folding tray tables.

    Anyway, I tried introducing porn to my wife over a period of a few years, but without much success. Fortunately for me, my then girlfriend (now wife) was accepting of porn and didn’t judge me for it.

    My patience eventually paid off. We eventually found porn that she liked watching – to my surprise and pleasure – she likes lesbian porn!

    So based on my experience, I strongly encourage men who having trouble selling porn to their girlfriends, wives, etc. try seeing if they’ll watch some lesbian porn. In particular, scenes with some build up – some recent good ones include Teanna Kai’s massage scenes in a couple of her movies.

    Plus, I’ve devoted a favorites list in my videobox of scenes my wife may enjoy and so we have a go-to whenever we want to use it.

  16. h2ok Says:

    Interesting stat. And another reason to also list the male stars in the videos. My partner wants to easily search on male stars as I do for female stars. Can anything be done about this? You used to have it once. Many thanks for an excellent service.

  17. Sean Says:

    My girlfriend found a couple of saved files on my computer and asked me about them.

  18. alison Says:

    h2ok – We’re actually working on listing the male stars in addition to the females in the future. The data’s being collected and should hit the site in the next few months.

  19. Shaun Says:

    I was always straight up about my habits from square one with every girlfriend. If they thought porn was wrong, they didnt get past that square. My wife is no exception. She loves to get fucked doggystyle with a porn on our overhead projector. Nothing like fucking my wife while watching a 120 inch porn. Great shit.

    I think the general problem is that lots of women think that men have to think the same way they do or they are immoral. Personally I think that is naive and retarded. Yes, I am imagining fucking the woman on the screen or someone she looks like, sometimes my wife. Sometimes I imagine that I am in an orgy with my wife. But no, I have never cheated and never will. The only friends I have that don’t watch porn… cheat on their wifes. Your choice, our testosterone tells us to conquest and fuck every woman we can. We can diffuse it harmlessly, or animalistically. OR go Ned Flanders, and most likely freak out in late life.

  20. justus909 Says:

    There should be a couples category added here for sure. The wife and I share this site together. I download scenes we both enjoy and burn them onto a DVD. That’s why we LOVE this site so much!!!!!! We’re members for life!
    A couples category would be awesome. We spend a lot of time searching for the right scenes. We’re not into the whole extreme gonzo craze that seems to be taking over the industry. But thats a subject all in it’s own.

  21. Rick Says:

    My wife of 20 years used to share porn before we were married. But not much since then. I know she would get into the “nice romance” end of things. Like one blogger said Lesbian build up stuff. A couples section I am for 100%. Most stuff here would turn her off. I need to weed out the stuff that a woman of Christian schooling could accept.

  22. Amanda Says:

    My husband and I enjoy watching porn on-line and on DVDs. The secret is that the man should be willing to choose clips that interest the woman as well as what he likes. It can make for great sex all night long. Just remeber that fantacies are fantacies, not what your partner actually wants to do. It can open a new level of intimacy. My husband said that when he masterbates he thinks of me not some woman from a porn movie.

  23. Heather Says:

    My husband and I enjoy watching pornography together! It’s definately a turn on for him, thus, me!