I have a question for you.
I’m a 30 year old male and I’ve never ejaculated during intercourse or a blowjob. Maybe this is normal but I don’ t hear a lot of people complaining about it. I can fuck for as long as I want and sometimes I feel kind of close but I never make it that far. At best I can fuck a lot and then my girl friend has to jerk me off but even that’s hard. Could it be I’ve masturbated too much in life? I started when I was 13 and jerked it quite a lot between now and then but I doubt that is uncommon. There are lots of products out that to help a man stay hard or not to cum but is there anything out there to help a guy like me cum easier?
Thanks and I look forward to a response,
As a woman, I can relate. But your situation isn’t as uncommon among men as you might think. Chances are, you’ve been masturbating the same way all these years and you’ve gotten used to coming in that one particular way. If you tend to grip yourself pretty tightly while you masturbate, that can exacerbate the problem.
If you want to be able to come from fucking/blowjobs/handjobs, it’s going to take some serious work. Essentially, you have to re-train your dick. It only wants to come in the way it’s used to. You have to get it used to completely different stimulation.
How do you do this? You have to change your routine. If you have a tight grip, you’re going to have to start masturbating with a much lighter touch. Switch up the way you’re doing things – use a different grip, lie or sit a different way, etc.
And you have to stick to it. Which means that if you can’t come with a lighter/different touch, then you don’t come. You can’t revert to your old method. It might take some time, but it’s really the only way to fix the habits you’ve formed over the years.
A final word on this: if you really want to change this, by all means, do so. But not being able to come easily doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. So don’t feel pressure to come in a “normal” way if how you’re doing things now works for you. Everyone is different, especially when it comes to sex.